(For information on the dynamics of gender energies, refer to the “Parallel Journeys”, available at this website.)

It is important to understand that Inner Woman and Inner Man are concepts that refer to the embodiment of the Feminine or Masculine Principles according to the awakened consciousness of an individual and his or her circle of possibilities. Excellence represents an aware, humble, active acknowledgment of capacities and the need for involvement in life. There can be no generalisation Rather than “enlightenment” the term implies realisation in a very human, individual, as well as social sense.

This article in particular responds to the insistent, although not unkind prodding I have received from so many men to describe my conception of The Inner Man. If it appears that I have ignored men’s needs, it is only because so little is known about female authenticity. Woman needs to understand and come to terms with the depths she embodies before she can make her unique and urgent contribution to society. In a sense men and all of Creation are waiting for women to awaken, give voice to their unique powers and vision, and set the foundation for the incoming cycle. Meanwhile, men are in a very precarious situation; they no longer live in the world they were promised and for which they prepared.

It is not what I say that makes me a woman; it is how I perceive and what matters to me. It is not what I do but where I come from, my intention, and the manner in which I go about doing whatever I do, that makes me a woman. As tempted as I have been to write about the Inner Man, I’ve held back for lack of moral authority. I can understand and share my world with men in their terms, but my perspective of undercurrents, the “bent” of my faculties, and the “quality” of my expressions are wholly feminine. But, I have observed, taught, and followed through with the development of many men and I can relate to them because I also remember the quality of my own past life experience in the male gender.

I am constantly on the lookout for groups of men to see if they are coming together as women are, searching for existential answers within themselves, to experience and through that experience understand, the radical paradigm shifts that are emerging, and how they affect performance and congruence in the world they have come to expect. I haven’t found them. They search instead for answers, ways and means, explanations, and always to formulate solutions, concerning themselves with form rather than content.

I read about gatherings around subjects and issues, rather than about the experience of the inner self. Teachers of shamanism, tantric sex, and conceptual psychology, involving performance and intellectual understanding, often lead these groups. Experience of this sort is solely physical and mental, fostering a spirit of adventure and challenge that reflect their structure and the interpretation they make of their needs based on the dictates of the past. “Inner” is a fearsome thing for the male gender that does not know how to describe or handle formlessness unless it is conceptually. The qualitative side of personal experience has notoriously been women’s work. Some men have awakened to the abyss that lies within them and are already assuming supportive roles without being any less manly.

The feminine theme is now fashionable. Advertising and business in general have jumped on the bandwagon offering token versions of female inspiration. Since these structures are erected by and performed within male standards, business continues as usual. The Feminine Principle, as outlined in the first three parts of this series, emerges from a configuration of polarities within. It cannot be “done” or imitated. It may be supported and comprehended by men, but they cannot conceive it.

Men tend to define themselves by performance and ability. By virtue of their physical and mental structure, they are best qualified to be the regents of the outer world. They are also the teachers, builders and protectors of life, and formulators of systems and structures. This is how it has always been and always will be. Women cannot do what they do in the way that they do it. The Inner Man will continue to express the virtues of the gender, only differently.

The Inner Man is one who has refined himself through observation and discipline, obtaining clarity and distilling the qualities of mind and spatial relations. He is not afraid to stand-alone and does not pander to “company spirit”. His achievement is determined by his relationship to his creations and their efficacy in whatever field of expression he finds himself in. He engages himself in the world, its activities and formulation, and has demonstrated individual worth and value lucidly, beyond the competitiveness of lesser men. Even from the sidelines, he inspires solidity and structure.

Herewith are some of the developed characteristics of the Inner Man. For purposes of clarity, I will contrast them with similar or equal skills in women.

Foremost is nobility. This refers to character and in particular to the integration of a man’s brand of subtle emotion with the clarity of his orderly mind. Dignity reflects the posture evoked by his handling of physical form and concepts in controlled, conscious presence, as well as his peculiar ability to integrate and synthesise elements. He manifests strength, or courage, as inflexible willpower and moral stature, which are as important for him as compassion, flexibility, and reciprocity are for a woman.

Clarity is by far one of the most salient attributes in the Inner Man. Understanding comes as a consequence of his ability to focus and handle multiple concrete facts simultaneously. It is very different from the comprehensiveness of women who understand issues whilst moving within a complex composite of concurrent possibilities.

The imperative to guide and help another is that element that allows men to become excellent teachers and masters, communicating skilfully, practically and clearly through the ability of dissecting elements and bringing them together.

Of all these qualities, from the perspective of the female, the most touching is humility. Whereas a woman might express subservience in order to please or to survive, there is very little genuine humility in her. Men can be truly humble when they couple the understanding they are capable of possessing with the inspiration of tender emotional ideals.

Surprisingly perhaps, the Inner Man also excels in generosity. Whereas women may incorporate Nature’s abundance, her ongoing concern with the management of resources for her children and the whole of society, limits the kind of classical expression so typical in her brothers when their ideals have been awakened. It knows no limits.

Women are deeply affected by demonstrations of friendship among men. An Inner Man truly respects another man. He has a keen sense of fair-play. And he extends this to those aspects of material and physical life he supervises in the world.

Men value truth, whether literal or metaphysical, whereas women content themselves with untranslatable mystical experience even in daily life. Men invented vows and promises to please women, but women remain in the realm of subterfuge and insinuation. Men possess ability for abstraction that does not come easy for women. This enables them to handle theory and complex codices, while women embrace conceptual truth and holistic information intuitively.

There are three important areas in which both genders excel equally. Looking more deeply into the nature of their perception and management of form, will help us understand their difference and the unique quality of their contribution to humanity.

Inspired “Inner” women and men share a common purpose, the enlightenment of humankind and our conditions, yet our solutions will vary significantly. A woman begins from the inside, the universe she inhabits and shares with Creation. A man begins from the outside, the world he administers and builds.


With a vision of the parts and the whole readily available, men excel at rearranging fact and form, and also switching planes between background and foreground, relating elements that might not have been formerly compatible, and innovating in very practical ways. Male creativity always points to material usefulness, convenience and comfort. On the other end of the scale, men are excellent abstract thinkers and their creativity can extend to mathematical and scientific conceptions of dimensional life, including advancing into technological and artificial life.

Within a resonance that enfolds both depth and contour, a woman is capable of conceiving, gestating and manifesting forms from apparent nothingness, receptive to and always responsive to mood and flow, harmony and beauty. With equal efficiency, her solutions highlight inner wealth, harmony with life, and homeostasis rather than aesthetic balance, productivity, and practicality. Her creativity is aimed at areas of service, administering to humaneness and well-being. Even if a loner, she stresses some aspect of home and family, partnership and professionalism, as well as spiritual influences that uplift and reformulate the world subliminally.


The term is almost synonymous to the expectations placed upon men in the world. Since childhood, all a male child hears is how he must be responsible and “take care” of others in very concrete ways. Men are supposed to hold the whole group in place and impart meaning to it. And, they do it very well indeed. Their sense of responsibility seems to extend from the very contours of their body and reverberates within their every thought: how to be more productive, how to reach greater horizons. “How to…” is the extension of his responsibility, focused on building, doing, transmitting forms.

Men naturally “feel” responsible, not only because they have been taught to be bread-winners but because they do not draw the distinction between the forms they handle. For them, everything depends to their ability to act and hold power, as success or failure. The world seems to revolve around their performance. Ownership, budgets and numbers, plastic building blocks, model cars and trains, little soldiers or model-Hulks that trained them in childhood become the elements they handle in daily life.

Women too feel responsible, but they do so from their talent to “appear” and their own ability to sense the invisible, the feeling world surrounding them. If the husband does not perform as he might like, be it as a provider or as a sexual partner, as inconceivable as it is for a man, it does not matter much to her. For her, harmony, peace and beauty are priorities. She is the natural diplomat who carries the burden of people’s strife and suffering without flinching.


Leadership requires communication. Last century and even as recently as 50 years ago, this term would have applied to men exclusively. They are uniquely equipped for verbal and physical leadership in our world. However, with the kind of worldwide education women have received, equal to men in most places, our bodies have been retrained and our mental and physical prowess has been sharpened to handle detail as clearly and precisely as any man. This has allowed women to succeed in areas of communication and physical prominence where we would not have had access before.

What this means today is that women are able to communicate what they feel, see, and understand clearly, and transmit as well as apply this information globally through what were traditionally male positions. She has demonstrated that she can be as good a leader as any. However, the implications of this go much farther. Once she discovers the fullness and authenticity of her non-linear abilities, she will be able to recondition, requalify and restructure any and all systems. She is now equipped to lead the world into the new Feminine Cycle, with her brother’s support. The genuine Inner Woman leads without a consciousness of competition or revenge, simply because she wants the world to be a better place for everyone.

The Inner Man like the Inner Woman, is able to stand alone and whole. He is the man that he “can” be, contributing to our common world by embodying the Masculine Principle through his structure, in consciousness and to the fullness of his abilities. Whereby his sisters are priestesses, he is the teacher who was, is, and forever will be … inspired by them. Her transmission is subliminal and invisible most often, but his is direct, concrete, and structured to last forever.

The Inner Man may be considered a “genius” in whichever field he chooses to perform. When he allows himself to embrace the tenderness of his feelings, he is the epitome of “understanding”, helping women find words where none were forthcoming and providing the incentive for her to reveal ever-keener more complex depths that he will help translate for application in our common world.

Notable Inner Men are not necessarily spiritual leaders like Jesus, Buddha, and Mohammed. They are not especially visionary statesmen like Gandhi and Gorbachov, nor innovator-inventors like Pasteur, Einstein and Tesla. They are the men who are arising today to guide humanity almost invisibly, in the way that is relevant and appropriate, without conforming to macho-images and obligations imposed so very long ago, and without needing recognition. Imperceptibly and without understand how, these are the men who are leading women to lead. 


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