THE DIFFICULTY IN BEING TRUE
In all relationships, including friendship, the ground is always shaky. To be in a close relationship with someone does not assure mutual trust fully. Partial dishonesty or omission of fact is expected in commercial and professional settings where there is no question of hurt feelings, but with family and friends it hurts. No matter what might be said in spiritual teachings about the need for detachment, or in social circles about freedom and liberalism, commitment to another human being means involvement, and this requires emotional trust. A little white lie is still a lie, and “not sharing” in order to spare suffering is just another way of protecting oneself from inevitable participation in another’s feelings, which invariably trigger our own. Living entails depth and amplitude, constant movement, change and adaptation at every level. Most of all, it requires presence and loyalty to innermost truth. Without this, relationships lack humanity and the quality of the spiritual.
Emotional sensibility is the essence of humanity and spirituality. I am forever aware of being held within the embrace […]